Saturday, March 3, 2012

How to overcome Dissociative identity disorder?

Please help me, going through this disease and all of these other symptoms.



multiple mannerisms, attitudes and beliefs that are not similar to each other

headaches and other body pains

distortion or loss of subjective time

depersonalization

derealization

amnesia

depression

flashbacks of abuse/trauma

unexplainable phobias

sudden anger without a justified cause

lack of intimacy and personal connections

frequent panic/anxiety attacks

auditory hallucinations of the personalities inside their mind



Please help me! Thanks.How to overcome Dissociative identity disorder?
It's not a disease. And personally, I don't even like calling it a disorder. I have depression. I have anxiety. I have OCD. Those are disorders. I also have DID, and while at times it can be so hard to deal with and so debilitating, it is how I have survived.



Anyway, back to your question.

Have you been officially diagnosed? I only ask because without a proper diagnosis, it's so hard to get the proper help you need. I know, from experience. I was thrown from one mental health "professional" to another and put on a bunch of different medications before I finally got a proper diagnosis and started getting some real help.

If you haven't been diagnosed, you need to try and do that. If you're currently in any kind of therapy, talk to your therapist about it. If you're not in therapy, you need to start. It takes alot of time, patience and outside support to help build up communication between parts (personalities). A therapist trained in trauma and dissociation would be best.



DID is not something that can just be overcome. Depression can be overcome, with medication and/or therapy. DID, its permanent. It never goes away. Yes, the personalities can integrate and become one again, but that doesn't work for everyone, and it takes alot of time. Plus, the fact is, they may not want to integrate, and they may not feel you're ready for it. For most people, integrating the personalities also means integrating the memories, and since they were created to protect you from those memories, many of them feel integrating would be damaging to you. Well, that's personally how many of my alters feel.

But with communication between parts, the symptoms become less of an issue. The time loss, amnesia, headaches, derealization, depersonalization, all of it will gradually decrease. Not to say it won't ever be an issue, or that it wont still happen, but the severity of it will decrease alot.

There are things you can do on your own to increase communication with parts, such as journalling and leaving them notes, talking to them, listening to them. Sometimes they'll have requests for certain things (they might want pizza when you want salad, a little one might want you to buy them a toy, etc) and if you give them what they want sometimes, they begin to trust you and open up to you more (obviously only do it if it's a safe request). Little things like that can help. But the most important thing is to get a therapist who is willing to work with you all to help you.

Good luck.

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oh my god i think i am suffering the same thing tooHow to overcome Dissociative identity disorder?
If you find out, let me know please - I have a clinical diagnosis of D.I.D.

I think they used to call it Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) but the film Sybil (is that how you spell it?) did nothing to help us sufferers.



Personaly, I have hade a total of 7 or 8 years of psychotherapy just to cope with everyday living. I only just manage to cope with situations that other people take for granted (like catching trains and buses) but oddly enough, I have a high IQ (around 140).



They tried to 'integrate' all my personas into 'one identity', but I felt my myself dying inside and losing some of my abilities (I'm a builder, cyclist, musican - but identify individually with none of those). I now just have to be who I want to be at the time. I can't hold down a job, I get into arguments with people because they always think they are right.



Everyone keeps telling me (by inference) that their reality is more valid than mine for their own reasons. They don't consider that my reasons are just as valid as theirs. The hard part for me is maintaning a stable relationship (I can't). I think my reality is valid according to my perceptions, but everyone keeps telling me stuff like "abuse is subjective".



The emotional abuse I suffered as a child was real, yet it is the same abuse I see in my friends relationships today, yelling, shouting, put-downs etc. If I try to point out that this same abuse is dysfunctional in my 'friends' relationships, they just go into denial and make out I am 'too sensitive'.



In my experience I think that in general, people in society have very little self awareness of themselves and even less awareness of the people around them (of course there are exceptions). This leads them to believe that they are always 'right' and other people are 'wrong' if there is a difference of opinion.



I now live alone in a caravan in the middle of nowhere, none of my 'friends' visit me, because I feel no-one cares enough to look past their own problems. My own family even has nothing to do with me. Depressing isn't it??



I'm sorry that I can't help you with any suggestions, apart from seeking and maintaining professional help from someone who cares enough about your suffering.
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